Whatever you think someone else should give to you, you need to be able to give yourself first.
Jay ShettyRead
I see my whole 20s as a massive experiment. So were my teens. I think the problem is that we're not encouraged to experiment; we're encouraged to decide and choose, be singular and focused. You can't be that until you experiment. You don't know what's going to work until you try it.
Interpretation
Embracing experimentation in life fosters growth and discovery.
This quote highlights the importance of viewing life as an ongoing experiment, particularly during formative years like one’s teens and twenties. It suggests that societal pressure to make definitive choices often stifles the natural process of exploration and discovery. By encouraging experimentation, individuals can uncover what truly resonates with them, ultimately leading to more informed and fulfilling decisions in the future.
In practice
During a career workshop, I shared the quote to emphasize the value of trying different paths before settling on a career.
Whatever you think someone else should give to you, you need to be able to give yourself first.
Expectations are not based on reality. They are observations, expected realities, or beliefs of what you think will happen. Expectations of others stop us from acting as our highest selves and reaching our full potential.
We think we have to become something else to be satisfied, not realizing that being ourselves is the only thing that can satisfy us.
If we don't choose to intentionally and consciously slow down and stop being in a rush, your body and mind will force you to do it anyway.
When I became a monk, it didn't feel like I was giving up that much. I actually felt like I had made the best decision, because anyone who hadn't focused on building themselves up was the one losing out.
Real love is figuring out how someone wants to be loved and loving them in that way.
We can often do more for other men by trying to correct our own faults than by trying to correct theirs.
Once your soul has been enlarged by a truth, it can never return to its original size.
Doubt everything or believe everything: these are two equally convenient strategies. With either we dispense with the need for reflection.
To know how to grow old is the master work of wisdom, and one of the most difficult chapters in the great art of living.
Make a habit of two things: to help; or at least to do no harm.
All the things you're not supposed to do at the beginning of your professional life - transgressiveness, arbitrariness and violating expectations - you find more attractive at the end of your professional life.
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