My children cause me the most exquisite suffering of which I have any experience. It is the suffering of ambivalence: the murderous alternation between bitter resentment and raw-edged nerves, and blissful gratification and tenderness. Sometimes I seem to myself, in my feelings toward these tiny guiltless beings, a monster of selfishness and intolerance.
We need to imagine a world in which every woman is the presiding genius of her own body. In such a world women will truly create new life, bringing forth not only children if and as we choose but the visions, and the thinking, necessary to sustain, console and alter human existence-a new relationship to the universe. Sexuality, politics, intelligence, power, motherhood, work, community, intimacy will develop new meanings; thinking itself will be transformed. This is where we have to begin.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Every woman should have control over her own body and life, leading to a transformative society.
In this quote, Adrienne Rich emphasizes the importance of women having autonomy over their bodies and lives, suggesting that such empowerment would result in profound societal change. She envisions a world where women's roles are not confined to societal norms, allowing them to redefine relationships, creativity, and the essence of existence itself. This change would catalyze a reimagining of interconnected domains such as motherhood, sexuality, and community, ultimately altering how humanity perceives itself and interacts with the universe.
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In practice
Example use cases
In a women's conference discussing personal agency and empowerment.
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