Labeling and diagnosis is a catastrophic way to communicate. Telling other people what's wrong with them greatly reduces, almost to zero, the probability that we're going to get what we're after.
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Anger, depression, guilt, and shame are the product of the thinking that is at the base of violence on our planet.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Negative emotions contribute to violent behavior.
In this quote, Marshall B. Rosenberg suggests that emotions such as anger, depression, guilt, and shame arise from a certain way of thinking which fosters violence. He implies that addressing and transforming these underlying thoughts and feelings can help mitigate violence in society.
Themes
AngerDepressionGuiltShameViolenceThoughtEmotions
In practice
Example use cases
In a talk about conflict resolution, one might use this quote to illustrate how underlying emotions can lead to violence.
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