Common sense (which, in truth, is very uncommon) is the best sense I know of: abide by it; it will counsel you best.
Lord ChesterfieldRead
Let your enemies be disarmed by the gentleness of your manner, but let them feel at the same time the steadiness of your just resentment for there is a great difference between bearing malice, which is always ungenerous, and a resolute self-defense which is ever prudent and justifiable.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Manage conflicts with kindness while standing firm in your principles.
This quote emphasizes the importance of responding to adversaries with gentleness rather than hostility while also maintaining a strong sense of personal justice. It distinguishes between unjust malice and the rightful defense of oneself, suggesting that true strength lies in the balance of kindness and assertiveness.
Themes
GentlenessSteadinessJust ResentmentSelf-DefenseMalice
In practice
Example use cases
This quote would be perfect for a conflict resolution workshop.
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