I'm trying to broaden the scope of positive psychology well beyond the smiley face. Happiness is just one-fifth of what human beings choose to do.
Martin SeligmanRead
In your own life, you should take particular care with endings, for their color will forever tinge your memory of the entire relationship and your willingness to reenter it.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Endings in relationships greatly influence how we remember them and if we are open to resuming them in the future.
This quote emphasizes the importance of endings in our personal relationships, suggesting that the way a relationship concludes can significantly affect our overall perception and memory of that relationship. It implies that the emotions and experiences tied to these endings can leave a lasting impact on our willingness to engage in similar relationships again, highlighting the need to be mindful of how we approach closures in our interactions with others.
Themes
EndingsRelationshipsMemoryExperienceClosure
In practice
Example use cases
This quote can be used in a discussion about how to end a romantic relationship amicably.
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