Labeling and diagnosis is a catastrophic way to communicate. Telling other people what's wrong with them greatly reduces, almost to zero, the probability that we're going to get what we're after.
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Keep in mind that other people's actions can never 'make' you feel any certain way. Feelings are your warning indicators.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Our feelings are a reflection of our own perceptions rather than someone else's actions.
In this quote, Marshall B. Rosenberg emphasizes the importance of recognizing that our emotional responses are not solely determined by the actions of others. Instead, they serve as indicators that inform us about our thoughts, values, and unmet needs. By understanding this principle, we can take responsibility for our own feelings and responses, leading to healthier interactions and communication with others.
Themes
FeelingsEmotionsResponsibilityPerceptionsInteractions
In practice
Example use cases
During a workshop on emotional intelligence, this quote could be used to illustrate how to manage our reactions.
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