I'm trying to broaden the scope of positive psychology well beyond the smiley face. Happiness is just one-fifth of what human beings choose to do.
Martin SeligmanRead
Rather than giving people an inflated view of themselves, we need to give them concrete reasons to feel good about themselves.
Interpretation
What this quote means
We should focus on providing people with genuine affirmations instead of unrealistic compliments.
In this quote, Martin Seligman emphasizes the importance of providing individuals with realistic and concrete feedback that fosters self-esteem. Instead of inflating someone's ego with empty praise, true support should come from highlighting specific achievements and strengths, helping them develop a more authentic sense of self-worth.
Themes
Self-EsteemFeedbackAuthenticitySupportPsychology
In practice
Example use cases
This quote could be shared in a workshop focused on mental health and self-improvement.
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