Whatever you think someone else should give to you, you need to be able to give yourself first.
Jay ShettyRead
We have a tendency to assume or believe saying I love you means we are ready for love, or that hearing it from someone else means they are ready. We just assume that we are on the same page about what it means. We don't know what someone else is thinking, projecting, assuming, expecting when they say that.
Interpretation
The quote emphasizes that the phrase 'I love you' can be misconstrued, as it depends on individual understanding and expectations.
In this quote, Jay Shetty highlights that love is often taken for granted in communication, especially when expressing feelings like 'I love you.' Many people assume that such statements indicate readiness for love or mutual understanding between individuals, but this is not always the case. Each person's thoughts and feelings can differ significantly, leading to misunderstandings as they project their own interpretations onto what love means.
In practice
In a discussion about the complexities of love during a relationship workshop.
Whatever you think someone else should give to you, you need to be able to give yourself first.
Expectations are not based on reality. They are observations, expected realities, or beliefs of what you think will happen. Expectations of others stop us from acting as our highest selves and reaching our full potential.
We think we have to become something else to be satisfied, not realizing that being ourselves is the only thing that can satisfy us.
I see my whole 20s as a massive experiment. So were my teens. I think the problem is that we're not encouraged to experiment; we're encouraged to decide and choose, be singular and focused. You can't be that until you experiment. You don't know what's going to work until you try it.
If we don't choose to intentionally and consciously slow down and stop being in a rush, your body and mind will force you to do it anyway.
When I became a monk, it didn't feel like I was giving up that much. I actually felt like I had made the best decision, because anyone who hadn't focused on building themselves up was the one losing out.
Social acceptance, 'being liked,' has so much power because it holds the feelings of loneliness at bay.
I think, really, that the only way a person can open their heart to someone who is so much another is really by knowing them... whether that's in a classroom, or a soccer team, or a food pantry, or any of those things. I mean, we're kind of more alike than we are different.
The way you start to break down systemic racism is to start building individual relationships with people who are not like you.
Brother, hello and good-bye. Frater, ave atque vale
I always try to remain aware that what affects others affects me, too.
Experiences with friends or family members coming out have helped millions of Americans to see past stereotypes and better understand what being gay is - and is not.
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