Whether it's repro rights, violence against women, or just plain old vanilla sexism, most issues affecting women have one thing in common - they exist to keep women 'in their place.' To make sure that we're acting 'appropriately,' whatever that means.
Interpretation
The quote highlights how societal norms and issues often serve to restrict women's freedom and reinforce traditional roles.
Jessica Valenti's quote draws attention to the various issues that affect women, such as reproductive rights and violence, suggesting that these problems are interconnected in their intent to maintain a status quo that confines women to certain roles. It underscores the necessity of questioning societal expectations and definitions of what it means to act 'appropriately' for women, advocating for their liberation from these limiting beliefs.
In practice
During a women's rights rally, one could use this quote to highlight ongoing issues of gender inequality.
Wanting to be liked means being a supporting character in your own life, using the cues of the actors around you to determine your next line rather than your own script. It means that your self-worth will always be tied to what someone else thinks about you, forever out of your control.
It's not always easy being a full-time feminist - especially as a young woman - when you're constantly being told that what you do is irrelevant. I'm on the defense all the time.
Now, should we treat women as independent agents, responsible for themselves? Of course. But being responsible has nothing to do with being raped. Women don’t get raped because they were drinking or took drugs. Women do not get raped because they weren’t careful enough. Women get raped because someone raped them.
Sex for pleasure, for fun, or even for building relationships is completely absent from our national conversation. Yet taking the joy out of sexuality is a surefire way to ensure not that young women won't have sex, but rather that they'll have it without pleasure.
When women's sexuality is imagined to be passive or "dirty," it also means that men's sexuality is automatically positioned as aggressive and right-no matter what form it takes. And when one of the conditions of masculinity, a concept that is already so fragile in men's minds, is that men dissociate from women and prove their manliness through aggression, we're encouraging a culture of violence and sexuality that's detrimental to both men and women.
Present-day American society-whether through pop culture, religion, or institutions-conflates sexuality and morality constantly. Idolizing virginity as a stand-in for women’s morality means that nothing else matters-not what we accomplish, not what we think, not what we care about and work for. Just if/how/whom we have sex with. That’s all.
Even as people take pride in their national independence, we know we are becoming more and more interdependent.
Only married people understand you can be miserable and happy at the same time.
Every tragedy of the human experience can be attributed to one human decision - the decision to withdraw from each other.
Brother, hello and good-bye. Frater, ave atque vale
If I am not good to myself, how can I expect anyone else to be good to me?
It was as if my father had given me, by way of temperament, an impossibly wild, dark, and unbroken horse. It was a horse without a name, and a horse with no experience of a bit between its teeth. My mother taught me to gentle it; gave me the discipline and love to break it; and- as Alexander had known so intuitively with Bucephalus- she understood, and taught me, that the beast was best handled by turning it toward the sun.
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