Sex for pleasure, for fun, or even for building relationships is completely absent from our national conversation. Yet taking the joy out of sexuality is a surefire way to ensure not that young women won't have sex, but rather that they'll have it without pleasure.
Interpretation
The quote emphasizes the importance of pleasure in sexuality and critiques societal attitudes that neglect this aspect.
Jessica Valenti's quote highlights the missing discourse surrounding the enjoyment of sex, particularly in the context of young women's experiences. She argues that stripping pleasure from sexual encounters doesn't prevent them from occurring; instead, it leads to experiences devoid of joy and fulfillment. By bringing attention to the lack of conversation about sexual pleasure, Valenti advocates for a more open and positive dialogue that recognizes the significance of enjoyment in sexual relationships.
In practice
In a sexual health workshop, to emphasize the importance of pleasure for overall well-being.
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