I want to appreciate you without judging. Join you without invading. Invite you without demanding. Leave you without guilt.
Interpretation
The quote emphasizes the importance of appreciating others without judgment and respecting their boundaries.
Virginia Satir's quote highlights the essence of healthy relationships, advocating for a way of connecting with others that is based on appreciation, freedom, and mutual respect. It suggests that love and connection should be devoid of judgment, demands, or guilt, fostering an environment where individuals can authentically engage with one another without feeling pressured or invaded. This perspective invites a balance between closeness and autonomy, essential for nurturing meaningful connections.
In practice
During a workshop on healthy relationships, this quote can inspire discussions about boundaries.
Over the years I have developed a picture of what a human being living humanely is like. She is a person who understand, values and develops her body, finding it beautiful and useful; a person who is real and is willing to take risks, to be creative, to manifest competence, to change when the situation calls for it, and to find ways to accommodate to what is new and different, keeping that part of the old that is still useful and discarding what is not.
The message sent is not always the message received.
What lingers from the parent's individual past, unresolved or incomplete, often becomes part of her or his irrational parenting.
The recommended daily requirement for hugs is: four per day for survival, eight per day for maintenance, and twelve per day for growth.
Your responses to the events of life are more important than the events themselves.
Put together all the existing families and you have society. It is as simple as that. Whatever kind of training took place in the individual family will be reflected in the kind of society that these families create.
It was never my intention to marry anybody. Economics are basically the only reason to get married, but I'm very glad I did it.
You can't organize people if you don't love them. And however hard it can be to love the racist you come in contact with; doing so is the first obligation of a white antiracist.
Companies in the East put a lot more emphasis on human relationships, while those from the West focus on the product, the bottom line. Westerners appear to have more of a need for achievement, while in the East there's more need for affiliation.
Women are always true, even in the midst of their greatest falsities, because they are always influenced by some natural feeling.
Marriage is one long conversation, chequered by disputes.
Believe me, Being gay is not a choice. Noone would choose to make life harder than it has to be.
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