I want to appreciate you without judging. Join you without invading. Invite you without demanding. Leave you without guilt.
Interpretation
The quote emphasizes the importance of appreciating others without judgment and respecting their boundaries.
Virginia Satir's quote highlights the essence of healthy relationships, advocating for a way of connecting with others that is based on appreciation, freedom, and mutual respect. It suggests that love and connection should be devoid of judgment, demands, or guilt, fostering an environment where individuals can authentically engage with one another without feeling pressured or invaded. This perspective invites a balance between closeness and autonomy, essential for nurturing meaningful connections.
In practice
During a workshop on healthy relationships, this quote can inspire discussions about boundaries.
Over the years I have developed a picture of what a human being living humanely is like. She is a person who understand, values and develops her body, finding it beautiful and useful; a person who is real and is willing to take risks, to be creative, to manifest competence, to change when the situation calls for it, and to find ways to accommodate to what is new and different, keeping that part of the old that is still useful and discarding what is not.
The message sent is not always the message received.
What lingers from the parent's individual past, unresolved or incomplete, often becomes part of her or his irrational parenting.
The recommended daily requirement for hugs is: four per day for survival, eight per day for maintenance, and twelve per day for growth.
Your responses to the events of life are more important than the events themselves.
Put together all the existing families and you have society. It is as simple as that. Whatever kind of training took place in the individual family will be reflected in the kind of society that these families create.
Each suburban wife struggles with it alone. As she made the beds, shopped for groceries, matched slipcover material, ate peanut butter sandwiches with her children, chauffeured Cub Scouts and Brownies, lay beside her husband at night- she was afraid to ask even of herself the silent question-- 'Is this all?
Marriage is about becoming a team. Youβre going to spend the rest of your life learning about each other, and every now and then, things blow up. But the beauty of marriage is that if you picked the right person and you both love each other, youβll always figure out a way to get through it.
The vulnerability of opening your heart fully and deeply to another is terrifying, but at a point in my 50s, I realized that I had to step up to the plate.
I feel at home in Shondaland. I feel a lot of things at Shondaland, but one of the things I feel that I haven't felt before is at home. I feel accepted for who I am and acknowledged for who I am. I feel like my ideas are embraced.
If particular care and attention is not paid to the ladies, we are determined to foment a rebellion, and will not hold ourselves bound by any laws in which we have no voice, or representation.
I have so much I want to tell you, and nowhere to begin.
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